Our existence comprises of choices that we make. From drinking milk in the morning to attending your least favorite lecture, from buying a blue shirt instead of a green shirt at your favorite store to adding an extra spoon of sugar in your coffee, from painting your bedroom wall pink to drunk-dialing your crush — you take a plethora of decisions, make choices, and bear the consequences. Choices are everywhere. Despite our parents making most of our decisions for our better and brighter future when we’re very young, we start learning how to choose between the options placed strategically in front of us and make decisions.
The choices you make and the decisions you take have a long lasting impact on your life. They make us special, put a bar of distinction between us and everyone else. Our lives are a series of choices we’ve made so far. We live with those choices for the rest of our lives — and believe me when I say this, the rest of your life is a pretty long period. Whether you feel it immediately or not, your life is being shaped by the choices you are making in the present.
Whether you decide to go to college or take that painting class you always wanted to or get your hair colored in shades of rainbow or travel to foreign lands alone — it’s your choice. It is all your choice. It has always been your choice. The past is unalterable yet offers you an insight on the mistakes you made. The present is a gift you need to make the best of, and the core of your future comprises each and every decision you have ever taken.
I, for one, decided to pursue my graduation degree in Political Science, but after 3 months of attending college lectures, making assignment deadlines, and giving interviews for plethora of extracurricular societies and meeting new people, I began to wonder if I had made the right choice. The question of whether or not I should have taken this subject started to bug me, resulting in fluctuating sleep patterns and subsequent decline in diet. The never ending scope of ‘what-ifs’ flooded me .
What if I had gone for Economics? What if I had chosen some other college? What if I had pursued Law? What if I had gone abroad?
It was later that I realized that the decision I made for myself was right all along. I was afraid that the choice I had made might have directly affected my future, and might have been wrong. I didn’t want to end up blaming myself for not succeeding, because in choosing to study political science, I hadn’t been faltering or steering away from my priorities. If it wasn’t the right choice, it would have been for reasons beyond my control. We don’t like giving up that control.
Sometimes, we make bad choices and often brim with misery and regret when we realize our mistake. That’s part of being human. When I flip through my diary and go over the deeds my past self had once engaged in, instead of being ashamed of who I was or what I’ve done, I want to be proud of myself and my choices. I want to be happy with what I wore, what I said, what I read, what I ate, what I listened to, and what I did. And this is only possible if I think before I make choices in the present.
We can’t undo the past, but we can always learn from it. Choices are the building blocks of our lives and despite all the mistakes one makes, a new day brings with itself new opportunities and a whole new world of choices.
Remember that the choice is yours. It has always been.
Every day people all over the world share a several universal experiences, and the most common one of these is choices. Life is made up of choices. I believe life is just a series of decisions we make, and depending on our choice, must live with the result of that decision. The choices usually consist of a multitude of possibilities and, whether real or imagined, we must recognize that in some way the decision will change our life forever. Therein lies the rub. Because there are so many factors involved with our decision-making and with its unknown result, many of us hesitate to even make a choice, thinking it would be safer and that we'd be better off where we are instead of delving into the unknown. Just think of how many events in history would never have occurred if someone did not make the choice to do something different, unknown, unproved or un-experienced? How many relationships would never have been realized without making a particular choice? Many would say that we have no control over our world or what happens to us. I say perhaps you cannot control the world, but you can certainly control how you choose to react to various situations and how you will handle them. Depending upon the type of choice it is (such as a lifestyle decision), if we don't have a multitude of possible options, we seem to become anxious and confused. So how can you be reassured that you have made the right choice, especially when it affects a major aspect of your life? Well, I am a firm believer that we as souls have various destiny points we must live through in this lifetime, which we have designed prior to our incarnation before we ventured back into this three-dimensional world. But with these destiny points firmly implanted in our soul makeup, we also have "free will" and can choose how we will live through the situation at hand. For instance, before making a knee-jerk reaction and judging someone, instead, you can take a moment and attempt to understand why this person is behaving a certain way, and you then may choose to react to the situation in a healthier, constructive way and demonstrate some compassionate.
When making a choice, one must be aware of how their choice will affect the future ramifications of their lives. Of course there are different types of choices; some are easy to make, while others are more difficult. For instance, an inconsequential choice is easy, such as if I should buy that new piece of clothing. But other choices that will affect other people's lives are more difficult. Still, as I mentioned earlier, the choices regarding life decisions such as career, moving, etc. are very difficult because in many of those cases, the response to that choice will be longstanding.
To assist you in making these decisions, I have put together a list of criteria that you can use while making a choice:
- What is important and valuable to you? What you value may not be of much import to someone else. So know what you value most.
- Don't lose focus on your future. Many people tend to make choices based on life as it appears right now instead of looking to the future. Does your choice and its ramifications stay within the goals that you have set for yourself for the future?
- Have you looked at all the alternatives and considered different scenarios? Sometimes you just might consider a different outcome.
- How important is this decision, and are you willing to work on it? Don't get caught up with how important a choice is, but -- better yet -- what a positive impact this has on your life.
- Don't forget to use your "intuition" for your choice instead of your head.
I always find that the more one knows about themselves and their place in the world, the easier the choice. One must always make a choice that is the best for their "highest good." In saying that, the only right answer would be the one your "highest good" will tell you. Before making any major choice in life, I gift myself with time to sit and contemplate. I bring myself into a meditative state and bring myself into the stillness of the silence. It is in that silence that one communicates with their soul's needs and understandings. Just by putting forth the question to our higher self while in mediation, you will receive a clear indication what is right for you and in alignment to your highest good.
Always remember and bear in mind that life is a series of choices, and most choices are based on two things: love or fear. Both can masquerade in different ways along your path, but love what you do and do what you love. Make the choices in your life that will make your soul sing, and sustain a happy life during your earthly mission. Just think: The choice you make today could make not only your life happier, but make a better world in which we live.
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